Never underestimate the benefits of normality – since Ray’s diagnosis we have had a to adapt to a new normality. Yesterday though was a normal day by our old standards. The last week has been quite good, Ray has had a few of the usual aches and pains but nothing major, he is starting to get used to how his body reacts to different things. So there is a lot less panic over every ache suggesting the mess is fighting back- instead we wait and see if the new ache subsides over the next couple of days.
Yesterday evening we opened a bottle of champagne we has left from Christmas, had an early dinner and set off to see Patricia Hodge at our local theatre. The champagne might have been an influencing factor but the play “Dandy Dick” was great – very , very funny! Then a couple of drinks at the local pub and the late tube home. We walked home through the misty rain ( not quite a balmy summer evening).
This morning we both said that yesterday was just like a normal pre-diagnosis evening!! May all meso warriors and their families have many more.
Not quite a normal discussion was had after the play when we reflected on how the diagnosis has changed us as individuals. Strangely Ray thought it had made him more aware of other people and their needs. I don’t think it changed us just reinforced our existing characters.
What we both agreed on was how it had brought out the best in friends and families. How it made you appreciate the people in your life and how they had all stepped up to bat ( not sure about my cricketing term). This is true not just for us but I know from reading other blogs how important friends are to all of us in helping make the most of what we have and sharing a few more normal days.